Now that leads me to quote #1
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Nosy neighbor: I hear sex and relaxation work. Me: Nah, we really wanted to try IVF first.
These types of comments after a hard infertility battle can be spine crawling— but at the end of the day it’s from someone who clearly is unaware of the struggle.
🌿There are so many things you want to say and so many feelings that come up… behind the smile, “yeah why didn’t I think of that?”
#2 Planning my life around “if i’m going to get pregnant” is exhausting..
“I might be able to go to your wedding if everything goes to plan I might be pregnant. But then again, I feel like when does everything go to plan?! So I should be able to go, but on the slight chance that I am pregnant, I might not go. So I am going to let you know how things go, but I don't know, honestly who knows."
So many people *myself included* who struggle with infertility have to type messages like these. Planning things around when you "might" get pregnant is so exhausting. Missing out on moments with friends and family for the chance you might get pregnant… When you can’t miss those important Dr check ups or last minute change in schedule based off your blood work and body’s reception to treatment. It gets so overwhelming..
Then sometimes the event that you are trying to plan turns into this milestone to remind you that you are or are not pregnant.
It's just... a lot. #InfertilitySucks
#3 IVF (n.) just because it’s taking a long time doesn’t mean it’s not going to happen.
I am not the same person I was when I started trying to conceive.. or even when I began fertility treatments.
I am stronger yet softer, calmer under pressure, grateful for all of my blessings and even more determined.
Prayers & hugs to all my #ivfwarriors — this infertility battle is not for the weak. Through this process you learn what resilience truly is. I see you
#4 I want to hold you so badly it hurts
After one 13 week miscarriage and one successful IVF transfer ending in a 6-7week miscarriage— I’ve seen two heartbeats and held no baby. To say my heart is shattered and the days move slow is an understatement. A piece of my heart left with each burden of bad news as the doctor grabs for the tissue box.. but nothing can wipe away this type of heart break.
Baby boy, we have 4 more try’s. I am remaining strong mentally and physically for you to be strong. I pray every day that my womb will bring you comfort and peace before you enter this world, and that you get settled in to stay— long after I see your heartbeat on that screen.
Life is hard without you, but I promise with everything I have in me— I won’t stop until you’re here earth side. Every appointment, every shot, every bloodwork, every missed event, every thing it takes in this #IVFwarrior phase… we will get through it. I love you so much already. Please baby, come home soon.
Mentally and physically preparing for my September transfer. I will try to enjoy the little things, but honestly if I could fast forward these next two months I totally would. #iykyk
#5 One day I will tell you how hard we worked for you
When the time comes, our future children will know the exact journey we went on to create our family.. They will know how they were conceived. They will know that they have 2 siblings watching over them in heaven.
They will know the financial costs. They will know the needles. They will know the ups and downs but most importantly they will know it was all worth it. That they were worth it all.
#6 Infertility is hard do it anyway. Infertility is hard do it anyway. Infertility is hard do it anyway. Infertility is hard do it anyway. Infertility is hard do it anyway.
this one is pretty self explanatory. Infertility is fucking hard.. do it anyway. I pray that each of you get your fairy tale ending. This journey is not for the weak.
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